Wednesday, July 1, 2015

The cry of a woman from a man's eyes.

The world is cruel; I will shoot to the point. The world is crazy, confused and messed up. The idea that a woman is a second class citizen; how dare you say that…how dare you let your lips hit your palate repeatedly as your heart comfortably lets you speak out words of misfortune. What kind of God do you follow who allows you to speak about the gender that brought you into this world? .Did your mother really spend her 9 months plus extra years to nurture you into a pessimist you have become? .I don’t think so….what if that was your sister or aunt or mother being segregated tortured, forced into sex slavery…would you be okay with that?. Would you actually sip a cup of tea and keep watching the NBA game as she cries, begs and prays for equality, for the chance to sit on the high table and be appreciated for how wonderful, sacrificing, nurturing and tender she really is.

Just because she is physically weaker than you, does not mean you take advantage of her. Just because she is quiet, chooses crying over violence when airing out grievances does not give you the right to curse her out, hit her as if she is a punching bag and spit out a lingual you would never utter to your grandmother.

Women are beautiful, understanding, forgiving, patient, hardworking, have laughs and smiles so benevolent God had to spend an extra day to make them. Why don’t we give them enough credit?, why don’t we shower them with positive and gorgeous messages instead of making their lives harder than life. Why don’t we carry them in the air and kiss them as their faces light against the moon. Why don’t we take a second to give them a chance or even promote them in fields they are good at, instead of looking at them as sex toys, a hole to sink manhood at your convenience?
It is so sad that the world is  concentrating on stupid music, that talks about sniffing cocaine and getting wasted on the Empire State building, rather than the under privileged teenagers and young women who are locked in rooms in the Philippines. These rooms are opened every 15 minutes to let in a new “customer” who pays 50 cents for a session.  A review on selling sex in heaven in Philippines depicts just the iceberg to what women are going through. Rape by their fathers by the age of 12, being sold into sex slavery by the age of 14, being forced to perform sexual acts in areas and times when they are not ready for it, owning 8*4 cubicle rooms that are for sleeping and performing sexual acts to foreigners whenever it is convenient for them; the latter superseding at whatever cost. Where is the G6,G8 and G20 when all this is happening under their noses, most disturbing facts include church being involved in cutting sex education in schools and the government cutting on condom supply in the country (Come on, seriously!!!).

I am surprised that the world is not shedding tears as the treatment received by the feminine gender keeps hitting rock bottom, it will meet the igneous rocks at the core of the earth. According to Forbes, there are only 15 jobs where women earn more than men. These include occupation therapists, dieticians, porn industry (yes I said porn) and nutritionists.

Now some of you hard headed Homo sapiens are going to argue with me and say otherwise. That a woman deserved to be ruled and controlled by men, that  it has been like that for hundreds of years and who am I to speak otherwise. I will give you a simple answer, if your mother is still alive or aunty or any strong female authoritative figure in your life. I want you to go to them and speak about female submissiveness and justify the torture you plan to impact on her gender mates.
You see the world has gone through a lot cruelty. There were times when slave trade was the right thing, moments when a black man was nothing but a commodity to be purchased and dealt with as the master wished. There were times when tribal wars in African lands were the only way to solve problems. Times when having the most number of colonies meant your country was so powerful and undisputed. What happened to these times…they ended, time moved and the human mind out grew the barbaric nature of living for the good of mankind, another way to term this is civilization. Why can’t we start taking a step into saving women for the sake of our daughters, nieces and sisters we are to have? .Let us create a good present environment for the future that the past has never dreamed of.

There is something we can do to heal the wounds us men, have created. I will just say a few:-
·         Chivalry- it is something easy to do if you think of it. It just requires you to be nice to the woman God blessed to be in your presence. Tell her she looks nice, tell her how thankful you are to having her in your life, check on her occasionally and surprise her. Again, the hard headed men will say why waste my time doing that. One thing you forget is that they cook for you, some iron for you, clean after you when you have hit the bottom of the totem pole, she supports you when your drunk personally comes home shouting and cursing your heart out, so cut her some slack!.
·         Be there for her- she could be your sister, daughter or girlfriend. Support her. One good turn deserves another, if you help her when her heart is filled with sorrow, she will remember you when it is on cloud 9 (talking from experience).
·         Appreciate, listen and cherish her- Do that to her and you will enjoy the same treatment being mirrored back to you.


To me, women are the strongest creation God ever made. That ability to smile, laugh through sorrow and pain is priceless, the ability to forgive a million times and have their hearts heal after being torn to pieces, a talent and the capability to stay sane and positive in the world so negative about them, a sixth sense Goliath himself could only dream about.

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